How to climax alone
There is no way around it: it is only possible to reach an orgasm with someone if you have learned how to climax by yourself.
It’s like inviting someone for a bike ride if you have never ridden one alone – it will be hard to take someone along with you.
Women who know themselves intimately, who enjoy their own pleasures and masturbate, have greater chances of having orgasms with their partners.
Talks on male masturbation are much more common in everyday conversations than talks on female masturbation, even as of today.
When was the last time you saw women commenting on their masturbation habits?
I speak to you, women who are reading this article: do not put this possibility to the side.
I always encourage women to practice self-eroticism, to masturbate, and to stimulate themselves in the best way they can.
Women who masturbate have the tendency to take better advantage of life’s pleasures in sex as well as in other areas.
It is a fact that those who masturbate have the tendency of seeing life in an even more interesting way.
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10 steps in order to be able to orgasm alone
1) It’s your pleasure
Your mind and your body are among the only things that no one can ever control in you.
Enjoy this moment with all the potential that you have. Do not let anyone tell you what you can or cannot do.
2) Eliminate taboos
Until a certain time in history, masturbation was allowed.
Then there were leaders who became bothered by this idea and began to control the sexual practice.
What’s worse, they controlled sex practiced by women even more.
Even in today’s modern society there are women who do not dare to touch their genitals because they feel guilty about something they know nothing about.
It is time to put this aside. Touch yourself, feel yourself and try to find something wonderful in all of this.
This is your body giving you pleasure.
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3) Find cozy and safe places
If this is the first time you will be masturbating, look for a place where you will feel at ease and able to relax your body without worrying that someone will come in.
Here is a tip: Do not lie down completely as if you were sleeping, because this angle might decrease your potential for arousal.
Stay in bed, on the sofa, lying on pillows, in the bathroom or wherever you prefer, but prefer an angle where you are not fully lying down.
4) Choose which outfit you will want to wear
Whether you prefer to be a little dressed or totally naked, or if you prefer to stay under the covers, this is all up to you. Do what will make you feel better.
The only thing you want to make sure of is that you have an easy access to the genital area.
You can wear underwear or not, there are no rules. Do as you please.
This is what is nice about masturbation, you are the one deciding what is most pleasurable for you.
Read also: The Complete Guide to Female and Male Masturbation
5) Know your own body
Touching all parts of the body, including the genitals, makes you discover places that are usually covered on the day-to-day.
Have you ever looked at your vulva? Do you know where the vagina, the clitoris, the outer labia, and the inner labia all are?
Remember that it will be easier to have great sex with someone if you know the parts where you like to be touched.
With this knowledge, you will have even more pleasure.
6) Slow movements
Begin by slowly touching your vulva with slow movements. Do not hurry, go slowly.
As you start to loosen up and feel the desire bubbling up, you can start speeding up the movement up to the point where you find it interesting.
The exact spot, speed of movement and intensity of the touch are all up to you.
No two women in the world masturbate the same way, so find a way that is yours, a way that you prefer.
You are unique.
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7) Use gels
Gels are always welcome. There are many kinds of lubricating gels available in pharmacies, supermarkets, and sex shops.
Look for a water-based gel and preferably one that does not have any warming or cooling effects. Take the most basic gel and enjoy.
Start first by touching yourself with your dry hands.
As soon as you feel like it, put a bit of gel on your hands and then let your hands slide onto your vagina, with whichever movement and intensity you want.
You will see how delicious this can be. Don’t worry and let your hands slide.
8) If the excitement starts to rise
This is the most natural reaction that may occur.
Stimulating the genital area or any other part of the body will generate reactions in the body, one of them being pleasure.
If you feel pleasure, enjoy it! You are a free woman.
9) Pleasure
Pleasure is much more between the ears than between the legs, for men as well as for women.
What I want to say is that pleasure is more in the brain than in the genital area itself.
So if you just touch your body without imagining or creating anything in your mind, without thinking about a nice scene, the level of arousal will be low.
Touch your vulva, the outer labia, the inner labia, the vagina, while always imagining spicy scenes that will make you horny and sexually stimulate you.
Everything is more delicious this way. In addition to getting to know yourself, you can let your imagination run wild.
10) Climaxing
Reaching an orgasm is much more about practice than about something people are born knowing to do.
If you don’t learn to orgasm, you won’t know how to reach it. Orgasms are learned, just like masturbation is also learned.
Start practicing and, in case nothing goes right, try again, and again, and again.
There will come a time when you will have a wonderful orgasm and will see how delicious everything can be.
If you want to orgasm, go ahead and enjoy it! It is as simple as that.
Read also: What is Squirting? Can every woman have it?
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doi.org/10.1080/0092623X.2017.1346530 - The sexual response cycle. (2012).
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