The number 69 refers to a sexual position filled with extreme eroticism, as it represents simultaneous oral sex.
Have you ever tried it?
When done well, the 69 position can give you a lot of pleasure.
Despite bringing a spicy image to our minds, in practice, this sexual position creates great doubts.
Many people don’t do it because they don’t really know how to find a suitable position or, worse, there are people who can’t even be comfortable when they practice it.
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Here are some basic tips that you should take into account when 69ing:
- start slowly,
- focus,
- don’t neglect your hygiene,
- toys are welcome and,
- above all, allow yourself to have a good time!
The more you practice, the better your 69 will be. You can be sure of this!
To guarantee a performance that will make you extremely confident to achieve a top-rated 69, here are some tips to intensify this game.
And always remember, a good 69 can start even before you get to bed, before you arrive to the sexual act itself. I will explain you how…
1) THE BODY GAME
Suggest some caresses to begin.
There is no need to start the game by going straight to the point, especially because, in order to have an incredible 69, the couple has to be connected to the moment.
Perhaps an inverted kiss will send a good clue as to where you are getting at.
You start in the lips, slide down to the chin and gradually get closer to your aimed zone. The one who is on top usually conducts the game.
It is always good to remember that if the man gets on top he must support his weight with his hands and not “crash” on top of his partner.
Comfort is essential to a good 69 practice.
2) DEVELOP AN EROTIC MIND
Sex begins in the mind.
Work on the arousal before meeting your partner.
Don’t be afraid to let a stimulating erotic fantasy emerge.
Idealize what lies ahead. Imagine what you would like your partner to do to you.
Prepare your bed as if it were an altar. Enjoy looking at your body in the mirror.
And never forget that beauty lies in imperfections. Self-confidence is what awakens sensuality, not the beauty standard of the moment.
Play sex games with your partner through messaging apps or email. Well-placed words tend to have an immediate effect on libido.
But if writing is not your forte, look for sentences, excerpts from short stories or erotic books or even interesting images to send him (or her).
A poorly written text sent to someone who values good English will create the opposite effect. It’s a big turn-off!
3) GET TO KNOW BODY SIGNS
It is very important that you are comfortable with your body during a 69 performance.
Relax and focus on your pleasure. But also don’t forget that you are stimulating your partner.
Be aware of the signs sent by your partner’s body. There is nothing better to learn more about this than studying your own body signs during sex.
Those who do not touch themselves will have no parameter of pleasure.
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A good suggestion is to be aware of what causes chills or slight spasms in your partner’s body.
Involuntary movements show how much the person enjoys being caressed a certain way.
Anything that is heavily rehearsed can be an indicator that the person has not really surrendered to the moment.
Well-lived sex momentarily frees us from social masks.
4) PREPARE YOUR BODY
If you have a very stiff body, I suggest you work on this muscular tension before meeting your partner.
A good tip is to circle your hips as if you were playing in an imaginary hula hoop. Do this at least 15 times.
Then move your pelvis forward and upward, contracting the muscles around it as much as you can.
Visualize an imaginary hook nailed to your pelvis with someone pulling you towards the top.
Then relax and return to a neutral position.
Repeat this back and forth action for at least 10 times.
5) REHEARSE
Men
Fold your fingers and cup one hand. As if you were going to put some water in it.
Imagine that it is your partner’s vulva. Start at the sides, gently picture the clitoris, and notice what you feel.
Start making movements and develop your creativity.
When you are with her, you will realize that the more pleasure your partner has, the more she will open up to the touch.
Women
Hold your index finger with one hand, and imagine that it is your partner’s penis.
Make back and forth movements while fantasizing that your partner is receiving this affection.
Hold your hands firmly without strangling the “limb”.
Use your tongue for massaging too. This exercise is even better if it is applied to a sex toy. You can buy one at sex shops.
A little secret: men love to be massaged on the glans (which is also known as the “head” of the penis). Insert it in the mouth and make circular movements on the area with the tongue.
Meanwhile, the hands can support the base of the penis. The fingers follow the pace of the tongue massage in firm movements of coming and going.
It is important to lubricate your hands so that they slide and smooth out the process. Dry and rigid hands that don’t glide can cause agony instead of pleasure.
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6) ORAL SEX WHEN 69ING
Men
You must take into account that the vagina is a flower and must be opened petal by petal.
One should not be constantly stimulating the clitoris hoping that the woman will come.
Start with the outer labia, then massage the smaller labia until you reach the clitoris.
Know that the clitoris has the same reaction as the penis: it stiffens when a woman is aroused.
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Women
Forget what you’ve seen in porn movies: pumping his penis nonstop can make him uncomfortable and is not what will stimulate your partner the most.
Think of your mouth as a massage tool. Your mouth has to wrap around the penis firmly, but without strangling it.
Concentrate on your breathing or you will get tired and even retch.
The glans is the place that usually arouses men the most. But be careful – bite it only lightly and without putting pressure on your teeth.
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7) ENJOY THE VIEW
Few men and women will actually stop to observe their partner’s sexual organ.
Make a sex game out of it. Praise the person you are with. It is unusual and very pleasant for whoever is receiving the compliment.
Try to be sincere but do it with kindness. If you do not appreciate the amount of hair on your partner and this becomes a recurring issue for you, try to encourage him/her to shave.
If you can turn it into a game for the both of you, that will be even better.
8) CONNECTION
Connect your breath to your partner’s.
If they are breathing slowly, do the same. If they increase the pace, increase yours too, as if you were singing a song together.
Breathing is a thermometer of what you are both feeling and puts the two of you in a pleasure-driven active meditation.
9) LUBRICANT
As I explained above, masturbation has an enhanced effect when you pay attention to the lubrication of the genital area.
The movements must glide through the body and this can only be enhanced with the help of lubrication. Be it natural or with the help of appropriate gels and oils.
10) THE PERFECT FIT
Find the most comfortable position for both of you when 69ing.
The anatomy of the body is a fit. What works for one body will not necessarily work with another.
But you can’t concentrate if you’re thinking your arm is going to go numb.
You can even try new positions. You don’t have to stay the same way all the time. Change sides and always take the comfort of both of you into account.
11) IT IS NOT SYNCHRONIZED SWIMMING!
You don’t have to orgasm at the same time.
Don’t be fooled if your partner comes first than you do. Take the opportunity to explore a region that is not sensitive. Maybe you can put your partner back in the game.
If this is not the case, there is no problem in turning the 69 position into a wonderful oral sex performance.
12) YOU DESERVE IT!
One of the biggest complaints about the 69 position is that people are unable to orgasm because they are concerned with satisfying their partner.
Concentrating does not mean forgetting that you, too, are receiving affection. You can give pleasure and feel pleasure.
Be present. You want to satisfy, don’t you? But you also want to be rewarded.
Connection and exchange. These are the basic premises of an unforgettable 69.
