A very common question I’ve seen from men is on whether or not a woman has had an orgasm.
Knowing if you have pleased your partner, if she climaxed, and if she was satisfied… it is all very common, especially among men.
The truth is that there’s only one way to know for sure: by asking her.
Nonetheless, I’m going to give you some signs you can pay attention to in order to avoid making mistakes.
Women feel and demonstrate their pleasure in many different ways. Each woman has her own unique way of expressing herself at this time.
Some signs may appear, however, during an orgasm.
Keep an eye for any of these situations.
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2 Signs she’s had an orgasm
1) A sensitive clitoris
After an orgasm many women may experience soreness or pain when the clitoris is touched.
If she has climaxed, the clitoris will tend to lose its sensitivity to pleasure and will begin to feel pain/discomfort when being touched, especially shortly after the orgasm.
This is not a general rule though, because some women find it easier to continue being stimulated in order to reach multiple orgasms.
2) Relaxation
The body tends to relax after an orgasm.
The rapid, shallow breathing returns to normal and there is a sense of relaxation and satisfaction as a whole.
Many women even report wanting to take a nap afterwards.
Once they have climaxed, it is quite rare for women to remain as active as they were before, as they tend to relax.
Expressions vary from woman to woman. Each woman is unique in her way of feeling and showing pleasure.
The best thing to do is to feel her reactions all throughout intercourse, that is, if she appreciates the way you touch her, if she praises you, if she asks for more, if she wants more, and so on.
Rather than asking if it was good for her, ask her how she likes it or what she likes the most.
By paying attention to her answers, your chances of getting her to climax will only increase.
3 Signs of female arousal
1) Lubrication increases
When a woman is highly aroused, the lubrication of her vagina tends to increase.
You will even feel that it is “wetter”.
This lubrication has no color. It is transparent, and it serves precisely to facilitate the entry of the penis.
2) Her clitoris gets bigger
When she is aroused, the clitoris is filled with blood. It usually increases in size and becomes “erect” – that’s right, erect, harder.
Touching around it or even right on it is usually pleasurable.
3) Her face becomes flushed
Due to the increased blood circulation, some women have pinker cheeks.
Look at her cheekbones. If they turn pinker, this is an indication that her blood circulation has gotten more intense.
A pink face is a sign of arousal. Move on if she’s enjoying it (and also if you are).
Read also: 3 Tips to turn a girl on
3 signs that an orgasm is on its way
1) Contraction of the vagina
The muscles in and around the vagina contract, giving a pulsating or throbbing sensation.
You can feel it during penetration.
Here’s a tip for you:
It is also possible to feel these contractions if you place your finger at the entrance of the vagina, moving just the tip of the finger in.
Some men can identify the pulsation of a “little vein” (a pulsing blood vessel) just inside the vagina when women are close to orgasming.
2) Contraction of other muscles
When close to an orgasm, the signals are seen not just in the vagina.
Some women may shake their legs or even their entire body when an orgasm is almost upon them.
Some women contract their legs, feet and even their hands during an orgasm.
3) Moans
Each woman is unique. Some moan before and even during the orgasm, while others are silent when orgasming.
But the vast majority still tends to moan. Each woman moans in their own way, especially when close to climaxing.
Sources:
- Sexual Response Cycle
https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/9119-sexual-response-cycle - Women’s Experiences With Genital Touching, Sexual Pleasure, and Orgasm
https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/0092623X.2017.1346530 - Female Sexual Arousal: Genital Anatomy and Orgasm in Intercourse
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3894744/
