Oral sex is indisputably one of the favorite sexual practices for men.
If you want to perform the best blowjob of his life, then this should be your best blowjob too.
What I mean by this is that you have to enjoy doing it, having pleasure and also giving him pleasure.
This is a very intimate moment.
But… wait a second!
Do you do it because you like it? Do you like to see the look of pleasure on your partner’s face? That is, do you like to suck his penis?
Do you do it willingly? If so, surrender to it, have fun with your partner and be completely present during this special moment.
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For those of you who like this practice, I will give some tips on how to give an amazing blowjob:
1) Turn him on before sex
You can make him think about you and more specifically about your mouth, telling him during the day what you plan to do with him later on.
How?
Through a spicy message or an intriguing phone call that will leave him wondering what you are planning on doing… Would you like an example?
“My lips are looking forward to you getting home today. They told me they are preparing a surprise for you…”.
“Today I want to dedicate my time to a part of your body that you know I love. I won’t let it get away from me. Be ready.”
2) Don’t go straight to the point
Before taking your man to paradise, take a stroll through his body. Bite his neck and ears, use a very sexy voice to whisper in his ear.
Kiss him on the neck, on the chest and touch him on other parts of the body. Then go down, caressing him until you get there.
But when you do get there, don’t touch his penis yet. Explore the entire region first with touches, kisses, licks.
Kiss his groin, right in the middle of his legs, run your hands around maliciously.
Coming around through his butt, touch his testicles very lightly, without any rush.
Let him be in a hurry, let him go crazy so that you can suck him right after.
3) Leave the glans last
When you start to suck the penis, start at the bottom, through the testicles, at the base of the penis, gently moving the tongue up and down, moistening the penis with your saliva.
Do not reach the glans yet, control yourself. The glans is the most sensitive part of the penis, so leaving it for later will drive your partner crazy.
In the meantime, have fun with other parts, like the testicles for example.
Some men like being touched on the testicles more than others. Find out how much your man likes it.
If he likes it, touch the testicles, suck them and put them inside your mouth while employing a circular motion with your tongue.
Be careful because this area is very sensitive to the touch. Not all men like direct and intense stimulation on the testicles.
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4) Touch your man’s perineum
The perineum is the region between the penis and the anus. It is a very sensitive region to the touch, so take an opportunity to stimulate your man there.
Please be aware that some men get a little tense because they don’t like anal stimulation (and you will be very close to the anus).
However, if he feels aroused by this, you can touch, lick or even use a vibrator on his perineum.
This will stimulate the prostate which is a very erogenous zone for them. Some people call it the male G-spot.
5) Some men like anal play
Some men like anal play… but other men won’t even like it if you get close to the area. So watch his reaction.
Touch his anus only if you are sure your partner likes it. If you don’t know, you can ask him if he would like to be touched there.
If he likes it, take the time to lick, touch, caress and even insert your finger in his anus (if he likes it, of course).
Men who like anal stimulation go crazy when they are sucked at the same time they are being penetrated by their partner’s fingers or even by a vibrator.
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6) Give your man a hand job
Going back to the penis, start touching it while you slowly move your tongue up, licking around the glans a few times before sucking it entirely.
Make gentle suction movements, move your tongue around while sucking his penis.
Alternate sucking only the glans with going up and down, placing the penis all over your mouth, all while you masturbate him.
The hand that is holding and caressing the base of the penis is a great ally for you to control how far you can swallow it without letting it touch your throat, which will prevent you from gagging.
The penis should be well lubricated; you can use your own saliva or even some kissable lubricant.
There are several flavors you can choose from.
7) Always touch him
Your other hand should also be working. You can touch his testicles, perineum, chest, butt, and nipples while you give him head.
Remember that the tongue and hands must always be in motion, but smoothly.
Do not turn into an octopus, okay?
8) Look at him
“The eyes are the mirror of the soul”, and of the body as well. Show him how excited you are to be giving him head with a very naughty look.
You should also enjoy your expressions of desire. It is so good to witness your partner’s pleasure, isn’t it?
So look at him, observe him. I guarantee you that he will love looking at you back.
9) Talk to him
Not much, okay? But when you’re looking at him, alternate between speaking to him and licking his penis.
Tell him how much you like sucking his penis.
Tell him how much you like his penis (as long as it’s true, right? If not, it will sound fake and he’ll soon notice).
10) Make your body touch his
Put yourself in a position where your breasts or your vagina touch him while you two delight yourselves with this blowjob.
Place one of your legs in the middle of his legs so that you will also have one of his legs in the middle of yours, then lean forward, lowering your hips while positioning your pubis (the upper part of the vulva where the clitoris is) on his leg.
You can masturbate like that, increasing pleasure for both of you.
11) Try a liquid vibrator
Do you know what this is? Liquid vibrators are stimulants that have a vibrating effect and will give the man a different type of pleasure.
It will be like icing on the cake. These products are vasodilators and take more blood to the region, which will arouse him even more.
Choose one that is kissable. There are also flavored ones.
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12) Use stimulants with a warming or cooling effect
You can also use stimulants with a warming or cooling effect.
How about alternating between hot and cold and asking him to decide which of the two sensations he likes best?
I believe he will have a hard time deciding between the two and will therefore will ask you to repeat it several times until he makes a decision.
You can find out more about these products in sex shops, on the internet or through a consultant who will bring everything to the comfort of your home.
13) Play with the frenulum
Do you know what the frenulum is?
Have you seen a tiny, narrow piece of tissue that runs from the bottom of the glans to the bottom of the shaft? This is the frenulum.
Run your tongue around it gently.
You can also make circular movements with your tongue in this “ring” that circulates the entire glans, as if you were separating it from the body of the penis.
Do not keep your tongue still nor make hard movements with it.
14) Give a Lingam massage (penis massage)
Using a lubricant so that your hands can slide easily, you will massage the penis with very gentle movements.
Raise one hand around it, then the other, making the same upward movement a few times.
Then, invert and move your hands down, also in the same way, one after the other. Always have one of the hands in contact with the penis.
Then, hold the penis with one hand making a smooth up and down movement.
With lubricant on the palm of the other hand, stimulate the glans by making circular movements with a cupped palm, touching the penis with the inner part of the hand.
Sometimes you can very gently “hug” the glans with that palm, but moving it still.
They say that this movement brings an incredible and different feeling.
15) Is he going to come?
It depends on you. When you realize that he is close to climaxing, you can stop the movements, take a break and start very slowly all over again.
The pause should last a very short time though, just enough for his desire to ejaculate to fade away so you can prolong his pleasure and drive him absolutely crazy.
16) This is it… He is going to come
Now you can even increase the speed and pressure of your movements, but always maintaining the same pace so you do not cut him off.
At this time, it is important that you know whether you want him to come in your mouth or not.
If you are one of the women who likes to swallow sperm, go ahead and swallow it all. It will be wonderful for him!
But not all women are comfortable with sperm in their mouths.
If that is the case, ask him to come on your breasts, your butt, your stomach, your face, wherever you want. It will be very exciting too.
If you do not want to have any contact with the sperm, no problem.
We are all different and not everyone likes the same things. So let him come on his own body, like on his stomach for example.
You can then enjoy the look of his last moans of pleasure.
Finishing
Technique is the least important thing in oral sex.
The most important is that you like it, that you are fully present in that moment, enjoying it as much as he does.
Take this opportunity to feel and cherish his expressions of lust and pleasure. Enjoy!
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P.S.: What if you don’t like oral sex?
There are women who do not like to perform oral sex for several reasons.
Some think it is wrong because of a very strict education, for instance.
Others are disgusted, they believe that the penis is dirty. And some don’t even know how to explain why they don’t like it.
I have heard from a client that she thinks that “men can perform oral sex on women, but women cannot do it to men.”
In case you don’t like to perform oral sex, I would like to ask you: Would you like to do it? Have you ever wondered why you don’t like it?
Do you know why you don’t want to perform one of the most delicious sexual practices ever?
I would suggest you to try to understand your reasons, to consider if they really make sense or not, leaving aside some myths that you may have heard when you were younger, that is, really reevaluate your thoughts about this.
As adult women, we have the right to free ourselves from rigid norms and think and decide for ourselves.
Find out about the topic, clear your doubts, talk to your partner.
Only do it if you change your mind, otherwise it will be bad for you and for him.
In addition, he will probably realize that you are going down on him because you feel obligated to.
If you don’t like it and don’t really want to do it, don’t force yourself. No one needs to like doing everything.
Remember that everything in sex should be pleasurable for both of you. Don’t disrespect yourself, okay?
5 Bonus Tips on How to Give Men a Great Blowjob
(By Gabriela Daltro, Sex Therapist and Psychologist)
Oral sex is using your mouth, lips or tongue to stimulate your partner’s genitals.
For many people, oral sex is extremely arousing and even indispensable during sex.
The vast majority of men love it and say it is one of the best orgasms a person can have.
Do you want to know how to improve this practice and surprise your partner even more? Then follow the tips on how to give a great blowjob:
1) Take initiative
It is far more exciting when the woman takes initiative than when the man needs to ask.
Surprise him by putting him in a comfortable position and slide your tongue all over his body, so he will be sure that you intend to please him.
The more you explore your partner’s body before reaching the penis, the better. He will be very aroused by the expectation.
Eye contact is also very important and exciting; look at your partner from time to time.
It is important to be comfortable and indulge in this moment of pure intimacy.
2) Use your tongue
Lick the entire penis, as well as the groin and scrotum.
In addition to providing a very pleasant sensation, the tongue helps to moisten and lubricate the penis, so you can move on to the next step.
Use your tongue to play with the glans (head), the most sensitive part of the penis.
Pass your tongue around the glans and also in back and forth movements.
3) Hold tight
Then, hold the base of the penis firmly with one hand.
You don’t need to tighten too much (you don’t want to cause your partner any pain), just hold it tightly and start moving your hand up and down.
4) Explore the scrotum and perineum
Some men don’t like to be touched in the perineum (region between the scrotum and the anus), while others love it.
Pay attention to your partner’s reactions.
Most men like to be caressed on the scrotal sac, which is an area of great sensitivity. So, be careful with the pressure as to not generate pain.
One tip is to imagine that you are stroking an eggshell, that way you can adjust the pressure accordingly.
5) Suction
Suck the penis firmly, but without sucking too hard in order to avoid pain.
Move your tongue up and down while also using your hand to hold the base of the penis.
By moving up and down, following the movement of the mouth, the sensation becomes more intense and you do not run the risk of having the penis reach the bottom of the throat, which would probably make you gag.
While sucking the penis, run your tongue on the frenulum, which is that piece of tissue behind the head of the penis.
Start with smoother suction movements and gradually increase pressure and speed.
It is important to use enough saliva to slide smoothly. You should also be careful not to use your teeth, as it can cause a lot of pain.
Then just enjoy the excitement of the moment.
Oral sex can be foreplay or lead directly to orgasm. There is no rule. Explore and have fun together.
Sources:
- Oral sex and STIs. (n.d.).
ashasexualhealth.org/stdsstis/oral-sex-stis/ - STD risk and oral sex – CDC fact sheet. (2016).
cdc.gov/std/healthcomm/stdfact-stdriskandoralsex.htm - Taste of semen. (2018).
goaskalice.columbia.edu/answered-questions/taste-semen-0
