How to do it, which techniques and products to use, where to start and how to end good oral sex… these are all things I will be sharing with you today.
On this article I will give some tips on how to perform oral sex on women, which is one of the great pleasures that you can provide during sex.
Oral sex is one of the many possibilities to feel pleasure for both men and women, but knowing how to do it requires a dose of perception and attention.
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Tips for performing great oral sex on women
1) Surprise her
A woman’s body is full of pleasurable sensations. Explore it.
Make her doubt whether you will get there or not. The expectation is good.
So, kiss her a lot, caress her body, kiss her belly, ribs, move to her thighs and feet.
Then move up slowly – this will drive her crazy, filling her with pleasure.
2) Choose a comfortable position
It may seem silly to think about this, but it is actually not.
For great oral sex in women, both for those who receive it and for those who do it, it is essential to be comfortable.
Being distracted by a sharp pain in your leg, hip, back, or neck is not cool for either of you, is it?!
Therefore, choose a comfortable position and lead your partner to that position.
On top of making stimulation easier, this contributes to increase the expectation of what is to come.
3) Be calm
The clitoris is the region that most gives pleasure to women, but it is not the only one.
So take it easy, start exploring, kissing and caressing the inner thighs, groins, and outer labia.
Go around the entire region, kiss it, run your tongue over the area above the pubic hair and leave the clitoris for last.
That way, she will be more aroused and more prepared for being touched in the clitoris.
Although the tongue is moist and allows for a smooth touch, the clitoris is very sensitive.
Preparing the woman’s body and making her more aroused will therefore be more pleasurable for her.
When you get there, she will not want you to stop.
4) Be patient
Oral sex is extremely pleasurable because it stimulates the woman’s most sensitive parts.
For some women, oral sex serves more as a preliminary. For others, it is the key to reaching orgasm.
The goal, however, is for her to feel pleasure, so be patient. Try to observe the woman’s reaction and let her hint at when to stop.
Being patient means that it can take longer for some women to climax, but don’t worry about time.
Just have fun and enjoy the opportunity of giving pleasure to a woman.
5) Use your tongue gently
This means that you should not harden the tongue. This is not only bad – it is actually more tiring for you.
Therefore, move your tongue lightly, gently.
The light movement of the tongue should be used on the entire region of the vagina, thighs, groins, inner and outer labia, perineum (the area between the opening of the vagina and the anus) and especially on the clitoris.
Make circular, back-and-forth movements. Some women like faster movements, others prefer slower movements.
Do not hesitate to change things up though. Start testing and then observe, finding out what’s best for her.
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6) Try different flavors
If you are among those who don’t like the smell of the vagina or the taste of lubrication, you should definitely try flavored gels and creams.
In addition to giving a different flavor to the experience, something which can be more satisfying for you, flavored gels and creams can also provide different sensations for your female partner.
7) Add your finger to the experience
This tip is also important and can provide even more pleasure to a woman.
You should wait a little though, you do not want to use all of your resources at the same time.
Don’t forget to take it easy and go slow. Wait for her to be very aroused and lubricated, so that her pleasure will only increase from this moment on.
Do it slowly, don’t reach your finger all the way through, as it may end up scaring her.
Start by placing your finger at the entrance of the vagina, caressing the area in a circular motion.
The entrance to the vagina (the two or three first centimeters) is also an area that provides a lot of pleasure, so explore that area, introducing your finger very slowly.
Some women like a back-and-forth movement of the finger, just like the penetration movement of the penis, but there are women who prefer the finger to be moved inside the vagina, with forward-backward movements which can help stimulate the G-spot.
8) Observe
Paying attention to the woman’s reactions is important to know if you are doing it well and should continue like this or if you need to change the stimulus, pace, pressure, etc…
The woman always sends signals in some way or another, so maintain eye contact, observe her facial and body expression, pay attention to moans and sounds.
The more frequent she makes them, the more pleasure she is having.
9) Keep the pace
This is an important tip to emphasize.
When the woman is very aroused and you notice by the reactions of her body that she is almost at the peak of pleasure, that is, almost reaching orgasm, keep the pace, pressure and movement of what you are doing, do not change it.
As aroused as you may get from seeing her super aroused like that, do not change the pace, do not accelerate, do not stop, do not do anything different, as it may end up breaking the build-up to her orgasm.
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10) Suggestions of positions for oral sex on her
- There are some more common positions, such as the woman lying on her back and raising her hips in order to better stimulate the whole vaginal region.
- The woman may also be lying on the edge of the bed, so that the partner can kneel or lightly crouch.
- The woman can also stand, with one of her legs raised and supported on the partner’s shoulder or somewhere else, while he crouches or kneels on the floor.
- You also have a great access to the vaginal area when the woman is on all fours and her legs are slightly spread apart.
- Another position is the woman lying on her side, with one leg raised and supported by her partner or something else nearby. In this position, the partner can also lie on his side.
- And finally, there is the classic 69 position, in which both partners stimulate each other.
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It is important to remember that if you use a position where someone is on their knees, you can use a pillow for support, avoiding pain in the knees and joints so that you can enjoy what is best about oral sex.
These were some tips for you to perform great oral sex on your female partner.
I also consider the dialogue between the couple to be very important.
If you are in a more stable relationship, you can talk about it when you find an appropriate moment.
But if we are talking about casual sex, where sometimes there is no time and no atmosphere for this kind of conversation, the ideal is to really observe the reactions of the woman’s body in order to identify what pleases her.
Paying attention to these reactions is useful in all situations, even in stable couples, just as it is also important for the woman to guide the partner in this practice in a way that satisfies her.
No one is born knowing how to do it and, even when you already know, the ways to do it will not be the same for all women, will they?!
Sources:
- Oral sex and STIs. (n.d.).
ashasexualhealth.org/stdsstis/oral-sex-stis/ - STD risk and oral sex – CDC fact sheet. (2016).
cdc.gov/std/healthcomm/stdfact-stdriskandoralsex.htm - Taste of a woman. (2015).
goaskalice.columbia.edu/answered-questions/taste-woman - Which STD tests should I get? (2014).
cdc.gov/std/prevention/screeningreccs.htm
