How to go down on a woman (in 4 steps + bonus tips)

Many men, concerned about their sexual performance, come to my office to ask me: Am I giving pleasure to my partner? How can I impress my partner? Am I going down on her the right way?

I do not know anyone who understands more about pussy than women themselves.

This article was therefore written with the help of a wide range of women, going from those who practice self-eroticism (through masturbation) to those who aim to please their lesbian partners (through oral sex).

In order for you to go down on her well, you will need not only to know about women’s bodies but also to do it enthusiastically (without fear or disgust) while surrendering to the moment (without shame).

More than penetration, oral sex that is done well can distinguish someone from being just an “average” sex partner to a spectacular one, for the mere fact that you pay attention to foreplay before getting down to penetration.

So, are prepared then to dive deep into this topic?

How to go down on a woman

There are a number of ways to go down on your partner. I will share some tips here on how to improve your performance.

1) Be more dedicated than rushed

Do not go for oral sex without charming her first with a delicious kiss on the lips.

Men forget to kiss, and women love a good kiss.

Warm her up with a steamy kiss. Only then should you start to kiss her in other parts of the body.

Move down towards the belly, passing by the groin, and make it clear that you have the intention to go down on her.

Before completely undressing her, give a few kisses also over her panties, placing your lips and tongue also on its edges so she can start to feel the heat and humidity coming.

Take her panties off slowly (while keeping eye contact). Kiss her and lick her from top to bottom, covering the vicinity of the outer lips.

By pushing the outer lips away, you will find the clitoris waiting for you. This is the next part to be caressed by your tongue.

2) Caress the clitoris (the little pleasure button)

If she has accepted everything you’ve done up to here, the moment of truth is now.

Use your fingers to open the vagina a little and start to lick the clitoris with the tip of your tongue, making circular movements.

Keep increasing the pressure and depth. You can change the tempo (faster or slower).

Without stopping, insert one finger into the vagina and caress her from the inside.

Place your other hand on her belly and massage it upwards in the direction of the navel.

This movement will stretch the clitoris and make her shiver with excitement.

3) Explore all erogenous zones, be an octopus man

Women have multisensory sensitivity, so why are you concentrating in only one place?

To make her go crazy, press her thighs against your head, caress her hips, massage her breasts and neck, all while devotedly licking her.

You can also offer your index finger for her to suck on.

4) Ending on a high note

If you notice that she is twisting and moaning more intensely, keep the pace.

Do not stop, even if your neck is hurting or your tongue is getting numb. The result of this incredible moment will make her reach orgasm.

Many men do not care if the woman reaches an orgasm or not. Be different.

Make a difference!

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Bonus Tips: Best Positions to Go Down on a Woman

1) Queen Position

She sits on your face. Your mouth will fit perfectly between her legs. Enjoy holding her butt as she moves her hips.

2) Doggy style

Use your hands to lightly spread her butt cheeks and explore the area with your tongue.

You can even take the opportunity to surprise her with a Greek kiss (oral sex in the anus).

3) Deep oral sex

She lies on the edge of the bed with both legs raised (holding them to her chest), and you kneel while using your mouth, tongue and nose. Your whole face will be on her!