All people are fetishists (have fetishes) to some degree. Everybody is attracted to a particular style, posture, behavior, clothes, or physical characteristic.
So don’t be shy if you don’t find your particular fetish in the next lines, because each person has their own. On this article, I will tell you the most common ones.
A fetish is like a spell capable of “enchanting” an individual’s sex life. There are objects that we believe have greater influence on our mind and, consequently, will have an impact on our sexual desire.
The fetishized object represents our deepest desires; it is something on standby for us to enjoy. A call for pleasure.
With this in mind, I have selected a list of the 8 biggest fetishes that arouse most men and women. Check them out!
Read also:
- 11 tips from Sexologists that will help you reach orgasm
- What penis size do women prefer?
- 7 reasons why missionary position is the way to go
8 Male Fetishes
1) Sexy Clothes
Cleavage may be more attractive to a man than the sight of naked breasts.
Imagining what’s under a woman’s garments is a powerful male aphrodisiac.
Clothes may insinuate, without vulgarity, strategic parts that hide the main “gift” (breasts, thighs, butt…).
In this context, sexy lingerie also stimulates the male imagination.
Wearing garter belts, thigh-high tights and high heels without moderation can, apart from making women taller and more elegant, give the impression of a “lifted” butt, which drives men totally crazy.
2) Sexual Fantasies (“Pleasure Theater”)
Nurse, police officer, secretary, student, bunny or even a sexy little devil… Have you discovered which sexual fantasy attracts you the most?
Many men fantasize about spicy scenes with nurses, cheerleaders, schoolgirls, executives and even police officers.
Seeing your partner act out a fantasy during sex is another fairly common fetish.
3) Having Sex in a Public Place (“The Truth is Out There”)
Sex in public places turns any quickie into an adventure and can provide intense pleasure.
Cinemas, elevators, parking lots, aircraft lavatories or even the streets can serve the purposes of men.
The idea of something forbidden, as well as the sensation of being caught, turn men and many women on.
Read also: 3 Tips to turn a girl on
4) Sex Tape (“Film Me”)
Men like to watch sex. The porn industry can heavily confirm that. Can you imagine watching your own sex scene then?
It is a peculiar fetish. By taking some precautions so that the recording does not end up on the internet, filming sex can be fun and sexy.
It is an opportunity to watch yourself, analyze your performance and see your practice as an erotic stimulant.
5) Anal Sex (“Analyze” this idea)
It may seem like a common practice to some or even a taboo to others. But no one can deny that men love it.
In this fetish many ideas are combined: dominating, doing something forbidden, feeling pain and pleasure.
If done with care and hygiene, it provides pleasure for both.
Read also: How to have anal sex: 5 tips for not feeling pain during anal sex
6) Sadomasochism (submission/domination)
Some men like to dominate, tying up a woman with handcuffs, blindfolding her and provoking her senses.
Other men prefer dominant women, who take charge. In this practice, pain permeates pleasure (in acts such as spanking, whipping, hair-pulling, or wax play).
There are also men who like to be punished during the ritual of a dominatrix (a dominating woman who takes the role of punishing men).
This practice requires a lot of confidence.
For the use of handcuffs, consensus must be reached before starting the game. And be careful not to lose the keys.
7) Threesome (“Ménage à trois”)
Having sex with two women or even looking at two women together (voyeurism) may get men very aroused.
In most cases, there is a desire to see your partner with another woman and, preferably, to join the party as well.
The main problem is that when one does not want, three cannot play. Even though the man does not admit to his partner, in general he has desires for some friend, cousin or sister of hers.
As this is considered an advanced sexual practice, it is necessary to have an open mind and a totally flexible relationship in order to enjoy the experience.
8) Body Parts (“Anatomy of Pleasure”)
I bet that the image of the female butt soon came to your mind, didn’t it? This is the national preference in many countries.
But many are also aroused by the neck, the breasts, the hands and, often, the feet, which are objects of such worship that an actual classification has been established in psychiatric manuals: Podolatry (Podos = feet; Latry = adoration).
Men often choose parts of their bodies that eroticize them more, parts which make them hornier.
Read also: 10 things you didn’t know men liked in bed
8 Female Fetishes
It is not just men who have wild and extravagant sexual fetishes. Women also have their own fetishes and enjoy, even if only through thinking, some kind of naughtiness.
By the way, they are experts in fantasizing spicy situations and have their share of sexual fetishes to perform.
About 90% of women openly assume that they consume sex products such as books, films and magazines, oils, toys and costumes to spice up the relationship.
So, before playing Christian Grey and Anastasia Steele (from 50 Shades of Grey), check out these 8 curious and naughty female fetishes, which men have no clue about:
1) Strip-teasing (“Take your clothes off”)
Strip-teasing is the biggest female fetish.
Pole dancing, undressing to the rhythm of seductive music, exposing your silhouette, swaying around and arousing male desire are some of the great arousers of female libido. And men love it.
Every woman loves to be desired and to see her man drooling over her.
2) Being dominated (“The Use of Force, without Forcing Too Much”)
The idea is that the man desired by the woman will take her to bed quickly, tearing off her clothes and kissing her madly and insatiably.
This has nothing to do with violence, rape or indecent exposure.
On the contrary. In order to carry out this fetish, the woman is the one who will dictate the rules, even in the condition of submissive.
3) Threesome (“In Homage to Women”)
Many women dream of having two sex slaves or even sexual “athletes” to freely enjoy.
Double penetration can be part of a woman’s imagination at this time.
In another instance, there is still the practice of ménage with another woman, either by watching her man having fun with the other woman in the room, or by having fun being watched by him.
4) Dominating (Bondage)
The best thing about this fetish is that the woman brings the man (who feels important) to her knees before her will.
In this case, men who beg or lose control become very arousing. Women become the boss, the owner, the commander, or the dictator of pleasure.
You can tie your partner and punish him for being a naughty boy, feeling control over the situation through your partner’s devotion.
5) Exhibitionism (Sexy Studio Session)
In general, the woman who accepts this is very secure with her body and her partner.
It is an option that always fluctuates in the imagination of women: to be part of a film, allowing many of their sexual fantasies to materialize.
Since the internet is full of examples that went wrong, dialogue and consent from both partners is of the utmost importance.
Many women still have the fetish of being photographed in sensual positions or moments. This photo-shoot raises their self-esteem.
6) Uniforms and Costumes [“Get (un)dressed”]
Just as men would like to see women dressed as a nurse, women have the same thoughts about men in sexy uniforms.
For women, uniforms and even suits are very attractive and arousing. Some examples can be: cops, executives, firefighters, warriors.
This fetish revolves around the desire to strip someone of power, status or authority.
7) Public Places (“Big Brother”)
The feeling of risk and butterflies in one’s stomach when having sex in public places is very motivating to women.
Having sex in the car, in the elevator or in the bathroom of friends’ and relatives’ houses, allows women to overcome historical sexual repressions by breaking the rules and having a lot of fun.
8) Sex with Strangers (“Tell Me Who You Hang Out With”)
There are women who fantasize about sex with unknown handsome men.
The aim is simply to feel pleasure and discover what this “stranger” can offer.
The fetish of having sex with a stranger reveals that, without having any connection to a person, women can also have sexual pleasure.
Have you found out what your fetish is? What about your partner’s?
The opportunity is there to spice up the relationship and try new sexual fantasies that will be great for both.
Allow yourself to try and have fun!
Real also:
- How to give a man the best oral sex of his life: 21 tips on the ultimate blowjob
- Cock rings: what they’re for and how to use them
Buy on Amazon.com: Female Orgasms – What you were never told | E-book by Marlon Mattedi, brazilian sexologist.
