What does it mean to be a good kisser?
Kissing is a mix of feeling and surrendering…
Kissing well means kissing with every cell in the body.
A good kiss, for me, is an intense, hot and wet kiss, a kiss full of desire.
There are many types of kisses. They range from the most well-behaved pecks on the lips to deep tongue kisses that turn the couple on.
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A matter of taste
When we think about kissing, we also have to realize that everyone has a taste.
There are people who prefer a more discreet and subtle kiss. Others prefer an ardent kiss full of desire.
In order for the kiss to be good, the most important is that it matches our preference.
Each of us needs to discover our own style in everything in life and it will be no different with kissing.
Maybe you kiss someone and the whole moment feels awkward, so you don’t like that person’s kiss.
A person who has a reputation of being a bad kisser in your opinion may meet another person who will see stars through those same lips that you no longer want to meet.
In short, a good kiss is one that is in tune with you, one that makes you draw imaginary exclamation points in your mind, making you just want to kiss, kiss, kiss.
In other situations, it might even sound like the kiss should be good, but it is not.
So, if you like the person a lot, try again, because maybe they haven’t relaxed enough to let a connection flow between you two.
Set expectations aside and enjoy the moment
Our worries about the opinion of others can prevent us from enjoying delicious and smooth kisses.
It is common for teenagers who are starting their lives as kissers to be more concerned with performance than with the pleasure of the moment, so the kiss ends up being bad.
In the beginning of someone’s sex life, we understand that there may be some extra tension.
But if you are already an adult who is used to kissing and find yourself worried about your kissing performance, then maybe it is time to pay attention to this issue.
A good kiss is relaxed, passionate and intriguing
This is one of the reasons why we close our eyes when kissing, so that we will stop controlling, seeing and judging.
It is a time for traveling in someone’s taste, in the texture of their tongue, in their smell, in your connection to them, in the eternality of that second.
If you are struggling, you may need to drop any kind of complex, prejudice, paradigm, or any other “kiss-blockers” that end up haunting us inside our head.
Relax and go with the flow
Going with the flow is as fundamental for you as well as for the person kissing you.
A fluid and natural kiss on the lips opens doors to the desires of the rest of the body.
A kiss connects and promotes a couple’s delight, as well as the desire to want more, the first step towards that curious hand, that wandering touch, the kiss on other parts of the body, for lubrication, for physical connection, for ecstasy.
A good kiss helps save a relationship
A good kiss shows that the relationship is worthwhile, releasing energy, bringing good vibes and a sparkle to the eyes.
It doesn’t matter if you are kissing the one person you will spend your life with or a person you are seeing only at that moment, a kiss is the appetizer that makes you hungry, sharpens your taste buds and makes everything taste better.
May we always understand this universal communication, which gets rid of words and is a super invitation from our instinct and desire.
Let it be intense, let it be hot, let it flow and let us trade restraint for the pleasure of a really good kiss.
Sources:
- Hughes, S. M., Harrison, M. A., & Gallup, G. G., Jr. (2007). Sex differences in romantic kissing among college students: An evolutionary perspective. Evolutionary Psychology, 5(3), 612–631. https://doi.org/10.1177/147470490700500310
- Wlodarski, R. & Dunbar, R.I.M. Examining the Possible Functions of Kissing in Romantic Relationships. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 2013
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4487821/
