Today I would like to talk to you about the importance of experimenting and learning to enjoy sex toys more, as well as being able to open yourself to the new and reinventing your sexual relations.
With sex toys every sexual encounter tends to get even better.
What I am going to tell you is what I see in my daily life as a sexologist and international sex therapist.
The benefits of using sex toys are numerous and I will share many of them with you.
Summary
1 – Why use Sex Toys
2 – Setting the mood
3 – Spicing up your routine
4 – Getting to know yourself
5 – Sexual fantasies
6 – Playing
7 – More intense orgasms
8 – Health Benefits
Why use Sex Toys?
First of all, you should always consider: you don’t need to be ashamed of daring or experimenting.
People and couples are increasingly venturing into this world of discovery, sharing more and more fantasies and new experiences with their partners.
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You can now buy sex toys with the utmost safety and secrecy.
You will also have a huge offer of products, online stores and consultants who can take many options to your home so you can get to see each sex toy up close and know if you identify with that world or not.
All in a very discreet way, which will preserve your privacy.
I see in my experience at the clinic that many people think about sexual relations in a way that is exaggeratedly serious.
They are often very demanding with their performance as well as their partner’s, which can cause sexual problems or dysfunctions.
Why not think of sex in a way that is more cheerful, fun and free of judgment? With more lightness, eroticism, respect and less pressure?
Why not let our “childish” play, games, laughter, and fun flow also during sex? After all, isn’t sex supposed to bring us pleasure?
So why not move our relationships out of rigid behaviors, evaluations and demands in a more playful way?
That is why I really like the term adult toys or sex toys, as they can be good allies in this discovery.
How about plunging into this universe of fantasies, creativity and imagination?
Talk to your partner, see what the couple’s preferences are, choose what most pleases you and allow yourself to experiment and maybe see this world as another source of pleasure.
But, before that, would you like to know some advantages of using sex toys, either alone or with your partner?
1) Setting the mood
We know that sex is an experience for all of our senses:
- vision,
- hearing,
- touch,
- smell and
- taste.
You may be surprised by some of the products that will excite those senses.
You can prepare your “love nest” with a more romantic, beautiful and cozy look.
You can use scented candles to create a candlelit vibe and then you can use the melted wax (which, when warm, does not burn the skin) for a sensual massage on your partner, which they will love.
You can also use smooth bedsheets and spray some pheromone (the sexual attraction hormone) perfume either on the sheets, on the lingerie or in the room, arousing them even more.
You can spread natural or store-bought rose petals.
In the bathtub (or even in the shower), you can use bath salts, bubble bath soaps, shower gel, all with delicious sensual scents which will stimulate sexual desire and all your senses.
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2) Spicing up your routine
Breaking your routine and innovating in sex renews the relationship, surprises, creates a greater interest in both partners and brings couples together.
It also spices up the relationship, increasing complicity and intimacy between the two of you.
It leaves a delicious expectation in the air… imagine having to guess what the next surprise will be?
You can choose a new product together, or surprise each other with it.
You can, for example, leave the house with a remote control vibrating egg bullet vibrator, where the woman places it in the vagina and leaves the remote control with the partner.
It is a product that is more frequently used by women, but there are also men who like anal stimulation and therefore can place the bullet in their anus.
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Ask your partner to trigger you whenever they want and this egg bullet will vibrate in you, providing great stimulation.
Your partner will have “control” over you and your lust, which helps you both to play and fantasize in roles of domination and submission.
You see, they will have control over your arousal and will stimulate you even without touching you.
On top of never knowing when you will be surprised with that hot and stimulating vibration, this will you make you try to hide the pleasure in front of other people and instigate the desire to quickly return home to end the game.
Wouldn’t that experience be extremely exciting?
How about a change in your look by wearing sexier and more daring lingerie, which will make you feel more attractive?
Or opt for edible panties which will show off your body before they can taste it by licking, kissing and sucking all of your most sensitive and pleasurable parts?
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3) Getting to know yourself
Sex toys allow us to immerse in an unexpected trip to an unknown world.
We can explore our partner’s body and our own body better, enabling the discovery and exploration of different erogenous zones (regions that are more sensitive to arousal).
This knowledge of your own body is fundamental to a healthy sex life.
We need to know each other more to know what gives us more pleasure and therefore be able to communicate these preferences to our partner using open and honest communication.
There are products that can help us in this discovery.
You can use vibrators alone or as a couple.
There are vibrators of several models, sizes, materials and functions, for example: those for stimulating the G-Spot, those for stimulating the clitoris or the prostate, and those that are mixed, which stimulate both at the same time.
There are also vibrating rings, which will vibrate and stimulate the penis and clitoris at the same time, as they are placed at the base of the penis and will touch the clitoris during penetration.
Vibrators are even used by women who find it difficult to orgasm in order to help them get to know themselves more and discover new forms of stimulation.
There are waterproof vibrators so that you can innovate by having amazing sex underwater (in this case, you can use a silicone-based lubricant).
There are specific products for the genitals such as arousal gels, which warm up, cool down, and vibrate.
By bringing in different sensations, they increase sensitivity and help you climax since many of these products are made with vasodilating components, that is, they increase blood circulation in the genitals, which increases arousal and therefore provides more intense orgasms.
Some of these products for the genitals have taste and can be kissable, giving oral sex a whole new flavor.
I have already said in other articles that I prefer the natural smell and flavor of each product, but one can vary by experimenting with different flavors in the same person…
How about a tasting game?
Some people struggle in both performing as well as receiving oral sex and report that flavored products help them to perform it more pleasurably.
You can also use body oils of different textures and aromas that will make your caresses more pleasurable due to their velvety and silky touch, stimulating all the senses.
How about venturing into a seductive massage, exploring and getting to know your partner’s body?
Lubricants make it easy to touch both in individual masturbation as well as in exploring as a couple.
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4) Sexual fantasies
Sex toys help us to develop creativity and to stimulate fantasies that are always healthy for sexual and emotional relationships.
Everything will depend on the creativity and inspiration of each couple.
Everything can serve to spice up the sexual fantasy, from lingerie and costumes (such as nurse, firefighter, bride, police officer, etc…) to all the products that I mentioned here.
After the release of the book Fifty Shades of Grey, some adult toys such as blindfolds, whips, handcuffs, etc… started to populate the fantasies of many people who are trying the domination and submission experience.
You can share your fantasies, which brings the couple closer together, while also discovering what your partner likes and sharing with them your most intimate, spicy and erotic ideas.
I like to mention that there are “dangerous” fantasies and that you don’t always have to fulfill them.
As the name says: fantasy is something that is not real, it is something that exists only in our imagination.
So you can play with them. For example, a couple who has the fantasy of having sex with a third person can use a vibrator that will play the “role” of that person, you don’t necessarily need to have a threesome.
Fulfilling some of these fantasies can bring more problems than pleasure to the couple.
Watch out. Share, talk a lot before taking action and remember that everything has to be done in mutual agreement.
5) Playing
The meaning of the word play is very beautiful and can be understood as seducing, charming, having fun.
You can play by charming your partner with these toys that give us a touch of playfulness and joy. They enrich and transform our relationships into fun intimate experiences.
And to play you can also invent and improvise.
For example, if you want to blindfold your partner, you can use a scarf or tie.
You can then surprise them in several ways by touching them with objects of different textures, using a feather, walking around their body and watching their reactions.
You can drop ice cream or chocolate syrup on your partner and enjoy it right there.
You can play cards and, with each lost game, take off a piece of clothing. I challenge you to see if this game makes it to the end.
You can also establish that the winner will have a wish fulfilled. Intriguing, isn’t it?
What I want to show with this is that even if you can’t buy sex shop products, creativity, a cheerful spirit and the desire to do something new can be put into practice with what you have at hand.
Just use your imagination and common sense. Do not put things or products on your private parts that may cause allergies or physical damage.
And if you can use a sex toy, you might find it hard to choose which one will please you. There may be several.
6) More intense orgasms
Many of these products improve our relationships, strengthen the pelvic muscles and, as a consequence, enable more intense orgasms.
Some gels for the genitals contain vasodilating substances, which means that they dilate the blood vessels that carry blood to the genitals and pelvic region.
This increase in blood will make the couple more excited, because you will use the gel and massage each other, ok?
They help many women who struggle to have an orgasm because they increase arousal and therefore make it easier to climax.
Other products such as vibrators and BenWa balls help to strengthen the muscles of the pelvic region, making you more aware of your body.
Making this muscle stronger and more toned leads to more intense and delicious orgasms.
7) Health Benefits
The sex toys market has not only been growing steadily, but it has also been innovating and bringing many attractive products, while also valuing our sexual health.
These products have increasingly been elaborated with high-quality raw materials, showing also concern and care with what is offered to us.
Some contain nourishing, moisturizing, regenerating properties, taking care of our sexual health as well.
As I said before, there are BenWa balls and vibrators that, by strengthening the pelvic muscles, help us to have better orgasms and also prevent urinary incontinence, in addition to other benefits.
Did you know that during sex therapy, we sex therapists use some techniques through exercises which you will do AT HOME and that many of these products can often be used?
That is, they are also used therapeutically and can be very useful.
Wrapping Up
With so many advantages, what are you waiting to put your imagination to work and unravel the mysteries of sex toys?
You can discover and indulge in this game of pleasures and sensations, therefore increasing your sexual satisfaction.
Try to find out about the quality of the products you are going to purchase, take good care of their hygiene and always remember your health.
Talk to your partner, take the opportunity to deepen your conversations about sexuality, share your preferences and fantasies.
We are available to guide you if you have any questions on this topic.
May you have lots of creativity, disposition, a desire to innovate, to discover new things, new pleasures, fun, joy and lightness in your sexual and romantic relationships.
Anyway, have fun. Play! Allow yourself to try.
